Thursday, December 4, 2008

For My Babies.....

My Dearest Babies,

I first want to thank you for choosing me as your mother. I will make a series of promises to you now that I want you to know in advance and I want you to hold me accountable to them.

First and foremost I will love and protect you unconditionally. I promise to light up every time you enter the room. I will not hold you responsible for the ‘bad’ day that I have if you are not at fault. Even if you commit the most heinous of crimes, you can ALWAYS be certain that I am still your mother and I will always love you. Wherever I am will be your home. Even after I return to the Essence, my love will be available to you.

I will fiercely protect you from any devilshment that comes against you. I shall be willing to lay down my life in that protection of you. I will sacrifice for you to see that you have what you need and some of what you want. You will be spoiled; but from love and not from material things.

But all this love and devotion comes with a price. Because I love you, I won’t lie to you. Your childhood will be appropriate, but without all the little lies that people give children. This world that we live in is unfriendly. You need to learn to fight, and you need to learn that early. I will have your back for as long as you need me. And I will shield you from some of life’s unpleasantness, but not all of it. You need to learn to deal effectively will all life’s situations. I will raise you to view the world honestly and mathematically so that you can make decisions for your self based on facts and not emotional whims. But I shall encourage you to make changes in your reality that you do not like.

I want you to know me as a person and not a superhero. I want you to come to me with your problems, but I want you to share your joys too. I shall never give you the impression that I have all the answers. I don’t. But I shall work with you to help you find the answers that are appropriate for you; not what I think you should do. You need to know that your mother has human faults and that she is a person desirous of affection. I shall be your 1st example of appropriate human interaction. You will see me interacting positively with your father an all members of our cipher. That does not mean that you will never witness me arguing with people. You will. But you will not witness the violent foolishness. Just effective problem solving. And where I’m certain I shall make mistakes, I shan’t hide them from you. I will never talk down to you or treat you like a second class citizen.

In the beginning I shall make most if not all the decisions for you. But as you get older I will allow you to make more and more decisions for yourself. Yet always know, beloved child, that you will be responsible for the consequences of your actions. There will be rewards or penalties for your actions once you reach the age to make said decisions.

You father and I shall provide the foundation for you to soar and achieve all that you desire. I will never seek to control, compete with or manipulate you. I shall neither smother nor shelter you. I shall not shirk my responsibility as your parent by trying to be your friend. We have a lifetime of friendship once you are an adult. During your formative years, I will parent you.

Though I vow to parent you, I will not physically abuse you. I believe in spankings, but I believe there are other options as well. I shall not jump to conclusions. I shall always talk to you prior and following administration of punishment and shall never punish you out of my own anger.

I will teach you everything I know. And if there is something additional that you wish to learn, I will see to it that you have the opportunity to learn. I will not expect you to walk the path that I walk. I recognize that there are many roads, highways and byways to the Source. I walked my own path; you will have to walk yours. I want you to grow in knowledge, beauty, and peace. It is my wish that you become a well adjusted, positive contribution to society with knowledge of self.

I am looking forward to meeting you. Hurry up and get here!